Woman dating a man wanting to end it
Granted, gold-diggers do exist, but every woman who does not desire to “struggle” with a man does not fit into that category. I’m smart enough to know that your intelligence, connections and work ethic—not the type of work that you do—is what truly leads to wealth and success.But it seems like a growing number of men, hell people, don’t seem to know the difference.
You know, stable employment, a kind and generous heart, someone who is funny, intelligent, consistent and faithful, etc. She wants a dude who has it all together.” Whenever my friend gets in this mode—which I still have yet to determine if jealousy or a self-esteem issue is the culprit—I cringe.
Then he went into self-deprecating mode: “See, that woman right there [insert random acquaintance he knows] is my type of woman. It’s like a combination of complaining, not being confident enough in what he brings to the table and judging women based on their preferences equate to this annoyance of a concoction. In other words, he counts himself out of the race for her heart before the “Go! Each and every time I ask him to elaborate on why he feels this way, it all goes back to how she looks, how she dresses and the life that she appears to live from the outside looking in.
And while this may be true in some instances, sometimes a woman financial burdens instead of functioning cohesively as a unit in the relationship.
And honestly, sometimes she doesn’t want to revisit the “land of hard times.” It’s usually no different than any other preference someone has regarding a potential mate. The problem isn’t his paycheck, it’s his confidence.
He may have been taught to or encouraged to toughen up by his father.
He may have experienced trauma that he bottled up over a lifetime, which can make being vulnerable again a challenge.
If you look back at the last few relationships you’ve been in, you can see a pattern: you seem to always be attracted to emotionally unavailable men.
Despite your best efforts to get them to open up, you always end up hurt and frustrated that they never reciprocate the affection or love you feel for them.
“I have standards; step up or step out.” – Steve Maraboli You ever meet someone, man or woman, romantic or platonic, real or fake, that makes you feel bad for having standards? Recently, I was talking to a male friend of mine who isn’t in the best—but also not the worst—situation financially.
I’m talking about those folks who take “humility” to a whole other level (i.e. We were talking about the qualities we’d like for our significant others to possess and the usual characteristics came up.
My point is: you don’t know why these emotionally unavailable men are the way they are.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating